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People often ask me what books I recommend for introverts. These are my current top three.
- The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life In a Noisy World by Sophia Dembling
- Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Won’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
- Quiet Influence: The Introvert’s Guide to Making a Difference by Jennifer Kahnweiler
Jennifer Kahnweiler was recently interviewed by the American Management Association.
I am often asked why we are hearing so much about introverts. “They are everywhere”, someone told me recently. No, they have always been everywhere but now you are noticing their existence…
I call it the “rise of the introverts”. Part of it is the influence of the new wave of leadership where people are not command and control anymore. There’s more research coming out that says that people who are more humble, quiet and calm tend to get more results without a lot of noise, with those loud rattling of the sabers.
There’s a myth out there that extraverts make better networkers. (In fact, there’s a lot of myths out there about introverts and extraverts but lo, I digress.) The ‘extraverts-make-better-networkers’ myth takes on various forms, including one of my favorites: ‘to be a better networker, just be more extraverted.’
Networking skills and a preference for introversion or extraversion are independent concepts. One does not imply the other. Networking skills are social skills, and social skills are learned.
People think and process ideas in multitude of ways. In general, extraverts tend to think externally; they need to verbalize their thoughts to think. Introverts, on the other hand, prefer to have their thoughts more fully formed before they speak. These differences in preferences can have profound differences in how effectively people communicate.